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My Giselle
- © Alexander Necheporchuk, Photographer
For most
of us honesty feels risky.
So to Get
Real, that is, to relax into just being present
to
whatever you are thinking or feeling,
will
require setting your intent to make honesty a "practice."
A practice
is something that you take on in order to expand your awareness,
to enhance
your capacity to experience life to the fullest,
to express
your maximum potential.
If you conduct your dating and
friendship relationships without an eye toward
spotting the addictions and control patterns that cloud
your ability to be open and loving, you will eventually find your
way home to that inner peace that is beyond understanding. On the
other hand, if you persist in trying to get life to agree to your
terms,
the
experiences of love and trust that you long for will probably elude
you.
We can stop pretending and start being more
transparent.
What
a relief this might be — if we would stop strategizing
about how
to create the desired impression.
Maybe then
we could relax enough to be present
and awake
to our experience of the moment.
We have
nothing to prove, nothing to hide, and nothing to defend against.
We risk
losing favor with others, but in the process discover the love for
self
and others
that has always been at our core.
Susan M. Campbell,
Ph.D.
Excerpted from
Truth in Dating
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